BONDS

BONDS BETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE

• When you feel misunderstood or you are being taken advantage of in your relationship.
• If you feel that whatever you say is misinterpreted and not taken as you meant it.
• You find yourself weak and impotent while confront your partner
• You suspects character or moral of your partner, knowingly or unknowingly
  aversion to have sexual relations with your partner.
• Either your partner or you or both of you find jealous, malice, hatred or envy for each other
• Certain pressure or obligation makes you speechless before your partner
• It seems like you have made bad choices in relationships and now it has developed disgust feeling about partner's habits.
• You find your wavelength cannot be tuned to your partner's
• You find yourself weak in communication and often get the wrong impression when you try to communicate with your partner or colleague.
• You find your relations are worsened and surplus of fighting over the period

TELL-TALE SIGNS TO WOMEN TO LOOK FOR

• Significant changes in your partner's grooming habits. Examples of this would be changing aftershaves, joining the gym, getting a new hairstyle, frequent bathing and buying new underwear.
• Your partner working back late in the office or suddenly having to be away on "work" trips more often. Of course, if your spouse's paychecks don't reflect all this extra work, then it might be time to monitor the situation to see if there is any pattern emerging (eg. keeping track of the mileage on the car, the time he leave for work and the time when he comes home). You discover, by accident, that he took time away from work but never mentioned it to you.
• - Cell phones are a common way for cheaters to communicate with their lovers. Suspicious behavior could include your partner buying a separate cell phone and setting up a separate phone account (that is billed to his office), without telling you. Even if your husband or partner doesn't have a separate cell phone, an itemized bill of calls made might prove illuminating (e.g. whether a certain number has been called frequently. Another tell-tale sign can be the deliberate deletion by him of all incoming phone calls from the caller ID!
• Home telephone calls, particularly incoming calls where he uses a low voice or hangs up quickly, may be a clue. Going out on the balcony to make or receive calls out of earshot may also raise your suspicions.
• Cheaters may have a change in sex life. That is, he stops having sex with you or he suddenly wants sex more often (see, it's not all bad!), as well as out-of-character sexual requests. Take the opportunity to check out those unexplained bruises on his neck or those scratches or back while you're there!
• Of course, there are the obvious tell-tale signs such as lipstick on his collar or the smell of an unfamiliar perfume on his body (or his clothes). The wedding ring in the back pocket of his trousers is usually a dead giveaway! What about those small, unexplained gift items? Who's thong is that? If he shows an uncharacteristic desire to be helpful with the laundry, check his underwear for secretion stains! While you're at it, check his wallet, pockets and the glove compartment of his car for condoms, unexplained receipts and pieces of paper with addresses or phone numbers on them.
• Another sign is a drop off in the amount of money going into the bank. When a man is having an affair, it usually costs him money. You know what we mean - flowers, wining & dining, romantic gifts, dirty weekends away (on the pretext of work) - money he should be spending on you! Keep an eye on whether he is spending more money than usual, by checking his bank statements and account balances, his check stubs, credit card bills and so on.
• Certain activity on the computer/internet is often a big warning sign, particularly if he spends a lot of time on the computer after you have gone to bed! Email is also a common method of communication and cheaters will often delete all incoming e-mails and outgoing emails to avoid detection. He may even have set up a new e-mail account without telling you anything about it.
• If your Intuition or gut feeling is that something is not right, then this is often the best indication that your spouse or partner may be cheating on you. When in doubt - check them out!

The Internet has made it easy for people to be tempted. Virtually anyone can jump on the net, join a chat group and very quickly find someone to play with. There are thousands of online websites solely dedicated to married men and women who are LOOKING to have an affair! There is also a direct correlation between the Internet and the ever-increasing incidence of marriage breakdown.

For women who cheat, it tends to be the guilt that catches up with them. For women who discover that their husband or partner has been cheating on them, it can be devastating. They never really thought that infidelity could happen in their relationship. Finding out that your "significant other" has been cheating on you, via the Internet, email, chat software and webcamming can be a real shock. Pornography is often a frequent part of this "online infidelity". It can often be going on right under your nose AND in your own home! If you suspect that this could be happening to you, don't get mad ......Get the evidence, then get as mad as hell!